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Like I always do

I am going to write you a letter describing everything I can't say. I am going to frankly pen down every emotion. The letter is going to talk about all that we have been through and everything I wish I had said to you back then. Its also going to describe all that I feel for you. For once, I will be honest and clear, without metaphor or abstraction. For once, I will tell it like it is. It will explain to you just how much I care about you and just how much everything you say and do means to me.

And then I am going to seal the letter and bury it in my cupboard. 

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  1. Oh MY freaking God, that is JUST what I do.

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  2. ... so now I know TWO really cruel people :-)

    Highly intelligent, but cruel.

    - ASnonymous

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  3. now i knw whr to find ur views on me.. ;)

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  4. @ riddhi - I do that all the time. There are even some letters addressed to myself ;-)

    @ AS - cruel?! How ?

    @ anonymous -- who are you?

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  5. Writing letters to yourself - Freaky

    Guess I belong to a different world altogether

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  6. Zoya, this is freaky! lol. Too much similar I say!

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  7. Um, its a way of getting perspective, putting things on paper! Also, may I know who you are anonymous?

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  8. mm.. der r two different anonymous characters here.. well m d first one..
    keep guessing coz u ll knw me wen m actually scanning ur cupboard, afterall its so easily reachable.

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  9. naa. last try ;)

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  10. ok i am done guessing. Tell me who you are if you want to.

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  11. wont say anonymous :-)22 February 2011 at 04:45

    write this letter - if its good stuff pl pl send it to the person . if you want to nikalo gaalis write ten of those - bury them dont destroy them - wait for the right time and give them. how much you care sounds - like you do but maybe you dont ..... so . dont let anyone hurt you !!!!

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  12. :) I write letters to people all the time. I never give it to them though ;-)

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