Every year, I think about you. Not too many times, but consistently, a few times. And each time I am not sure how I should feel. There is a vague sense of loss, a subtle tinge of abandonment, a painful realisation of independence. But mostly, there is just a numb nothingness.
Who were you? I am not even sure I remember your face. Your smile, yes. Your eyes, too. But in pieces, in context. I can't imagine your reaction in a new situation. I can't see you as you may have become. I can only see the frozen moments that I have embalmed in my head.
I wonder if you feel the need to see me. If you imagine what it may feel like to talk to me now. If you wish you had known me all this time. If I am even a real person to you. If you have convinced yourself that I don't exist.
Perhaps it isn't as simple as moving on, as erasing, as avoiding. Maybe it's an intense removal, a complete denial.
I don't hate you. I don't love you. It's an absence of anything tangible. It's a murmur that never reverberates, never leaves the lips, never resounds. It's not even a feeling.
You were, you were not. The difference between loving and forgetting isn't that much.
move on!
ReplyDeleteWell, I have. Also, this wasn't about a love interest as you may imagine.
ReplyDeleteawesome..
ReplyDeleteBeautiful words..!!
Thank you
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ReplyDeleteyes i feel the need to see u. and each time i feel the need, i close my eyes...
ReplyDeleteHmm. Not sure who you are?
ReplyDeleteThe trick is not to try and forget, but rather to remember. To place a memory at a peaceful place in your identity and learn from it, use it, rather than trying to exclude it from shaping you.The emotion of loss is just a feeling yet to be understood.
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You should post more often, was bummed to not read something for the past 2 months on life itself.
There is no forgetting... It's like it never existed.. Like it was someone else's life.. A story I heard from a stranger?
ReplyDeleteGlad to know that someone looks forward to my rants :-) I will try to be more regular
See the ted talk on the 'fiction of memory.'
ReplyDeleteUsually this sort of emotion is a function of spare time and leisure along with some false memories.
A jucy banana as long as it's kept under check.
"Maybe it's an intense removal, a complete denial"... oouucch !
ReplyDeleteTauji, even if I didn't see your name I would know that comment is from you :-P
ReplyDeleteAlso, anonymous, sorry if my words hurt you.
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ReplyDeleteDate triggered thoughts and memories are nothing but date triggered memories and thoughts ..lasts just a day ..
ReplyDeleteAm I the only rational person in your circles?
ReplyDeleteIsabel Allende writes in Sum of Our Days, "....in these years without you I have learned to manage sadness, making it my ally. Little by little your absence and other losses in my life are turning into a sweet nostalgia.” I resonated with these lines, and thought of these emotions as my own.
ReplyDeleteUntil I read your blog.
ANL
PS: A beautiful, gorgeous work of prose by the way. Keep writing
I am not sure I understand....
ReplyDeleteI had lost my father 27 years ago yesterday - when I commented on your blog. He was a force in my life - my primal source of knowledge, strength, and validation. The constant undercurrent of pain that I felt for many years gradually gave way to sweet memories and unforgettable stories. A sweet nostalgia you see.
ReplyDeleteHence, when I read Sum of Our Days, I resonated with it. I found Allende's thoughts to be my own.
But reading your blog made me realize that not all losses can be turned into sweet nostalgia.
Makes sense?
ANL
Oh...
DeleteI wish I had imagined him but unfortunately he existed. Happy birthday to him. Belated, whatever.
ReplyDeleteum.. who are u
ReplyDeleteI wish him nothing but unhappiness for the rest of his 'holy' life. Let's just leave it at that. Good day!
ReplyDeleteWow... That's a lot of hatred.
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